Father’s day is this Sunday and while I have a father, I don’t know much about being one. So I decided to take an inside look through the eyes of my husband, to get a dad’s perspective on parenting. He’s a really good daddy and I think that is evident in a lot of his answers to the following questions. Ask your own husband or father some of the same questions. You may be surprised at how they answer.
How many children do you have? How old are they?
Two that I know about. (he says with a smirk) They are 2 1/2 and 9 months
Why did you want children?
When I was a kid, my mom and dad always wanted us to wait on them and do stuff for them, so I thought it would be cool to have little people to serve me.
But on a more serious note, I’ve always liked kids and always imagined I would have some of my own. It’s an opportunity to pass on a legacy and to teach and train them about the important things in life and about how to help others.
What is your first memory with each of your children?
I cried when I first saw each of them. I just felt overwhelmed with emotion and I couldn’t believe they were finally here and how beautiful they were.
What’s your favorite thing to do with each of them now?
Paisley – When I come home and she’s just getting ready to go to bed, we lay in bed and she tells me about her day. Also, morning cuddles when she watches cartoons.
Simon – We like to forehead wrestle. But also, I just love watching him grow and learn new things.
What’s one thing you hope to teach them?
If I could only teach them one thing it would be what it really means to have a relationship with God. In our society today there are so many misconceptions about Christianity and the church. If I can just teach them to love God and love others, everything else is going to fall into place. The Bible has something to teach us about everything, from daily relationships, to finances.
What’s the best part of being a dad?
I get to be the fun one. Lol. No, I think the best part is just getting to watch them grow and change. Right now they are both at stages where they are learning lots of new things, talking, walking, etc. That’s my favorite part right now.
What’s the hardest part of being a dad?
Discipline. Not that it’s hard to know when, but because I want to see my kids happy. I can see how so many parents end up spoiling their kids. I’ve even fallen into that myself at times. It’s difficult to see them upset, even when I know it’s the right thing to do.
What’s the best piece of advice you can give for a dad to be?
It has absolutely nothing to do with the kids. Right after having a baby, you have to remember you have a wife that has just gone through a physically, mentally and emotionally taxing experience and needs a break once in while. As a guy it’s hard to always understand the emotional side. I have to take a step back and try to look at things from her perspective. I think if you can do that, things will go a lot smoother because she feels supported. It will help her be a better mom and you be a better dad. It’s a team effort.
What do you think you do really well at as a dad?
Diffusing difficult situations, such as emotional meltdowns. Either from the children or my wife. (I can’t argue with this.)
What do you hope to improve on?
I think it’s evident from the previous questions that there’s not much to improve on 😉
(maybe some humility)
Probably the way I react, or how quickly I react. It’s easy for me to lose my patience and forget that my two year old is only two and doesn’t understand everything that I do.
What did your own dad contribute to how you parent now?
He was kinda the fun dad. All of my friends wanted to be around him because he would joke around and have fun with us.
He was also always very vocal in letting us know that he loved us and showed us affection. I want my kids to always know that even when I am upset with them, I still love them.
Even though we don’t live in fear, what’s the thing you fight being fearful of?
I really have to watch myself about playing out scenarios in my mind of bad things happening to my children. In those moments, I have to take that thought captive to God and allow him to stop that train of thought.
Which parenting responsibilities are your favorite or least favorite? Are there some that should be mom chores and some that should be dad’s?
I think that all of them are mom responsibilities. I get to be the fun one. (Saw that one coming)
I don’t think anybody likes to change diapers. If anyone says they do,they are a liar.
Bathtime is kind of fun. Early on I made up a song about washing all the parts of the body and Paisley loved it. She started singing it along with me.
Although my wife does take on the majority of the responsibilities, if she needs something to be taken care of and I’m there, I’ll do it. I don’t think any of them are just for moms or just for dads.
How often should we get a date night?
I would like it to be at least once a week. That doesn’t always happen. It helps us both be better parents and a better hubad and wife.
Any advice to moms?
Is this a trick? This feels like a trick.
Relax. I know it’s hard to do moms, but in the end everything is gonna be ok. I know you probably think we (dads) need to not be so chill. But when you look back on all the things that right now feel like a big deal, 99% of them are going to turn out to be ok. I’d just like it to go on record that I was forced to answer this question.
What’s your idea of a perfect Father’s day?
Relax, grill out some good food, maybe go to the pool, take naps. Y’all think we wanna do something active. Most dads just wanna sit on the couch and watch TV until it’s time to eat.
So there you have it, a dad’s perspective. Sometimes, knowing a little bit more about what makes them tick, can help you give them a fathers day that really means something to them. You never know if you never ask!
Happy Father’s day to all the dads out there! Keep bringing the fun and making sure we moms stay cool under pressure. We couldn’t do it without you. We will still try, but don’t let us! 😉